each girl (or team) a sheet with a picture of “Ginger” (For sample
Here - print 2 to a page) As you
read, you tell the girls to rip a
piece of ginger off every time you think someone has hurt her feelings.
Tues. Sept 3 Next week school starts. I can't wait. Since we moved
into our new neighborhood, I haven't met
any girls my
age. Mommy says that I'll meet lots of new girls at school.
Mon. Sept 9 Today was my first day at my new school. I was scared.
Nobody talked to me and I didn't know anybody. The teacher told us to
tell about our summer
vacations. I didn't say anything and she got mad at me. She said that
everyone had to share. I didn't want to tell them about the divorce.
Mommy said I didn't have to tell anybody if I didn't want to. If mommy
and daddy were still married, we would still be living in Texas. I wish I
could go back to Texas. I hate my new school.
Wed. Sept. 11 I made a friend today. Her name is Marcie. She said I
could sit next to her at lunch.
Thurs. Sept 12 The bus driver yelled at me today. He said that he
wouldn't wait for me and that I should be on time for the bus. He said,
"Doesn't your family teach you anything?" I also heard him say under his
breath, "Those kids are all the same." Who are those kids? Did he mean
Mon. Sept 23 I haven't written for a long time now. I made another
friend. Her name is Lucille. But, Marcie got mad at me at recess and said
that if I didn't play with just her she wasn't going to be my friend
anymore. She said she doesn't play with kids like Lucille. She said that
I was dumb and probably didn't move from Texas but that I probably was
lift back. She called me stupid. I think she's dumb. I don't ever want
to talk to her again.
Wed Sept 25 I wanted to play football with the kids in the park
yesterday. Mommy says that I should try to make new friends, but my
sitter said that I couldn't play with the other kids. She said that
football was for boys and I was crazy if I wanted to play with them. She
said that girls shouldn't play sports like football. Then she took me to
the playground equipment to play, but there were only babies there. I
want to tell mommy, but she likes my sitter so much. She'll just get mad
if I tell her.
Mon Oct 7 Mommy said that we would go shopping for some new gym
shoes. The kids have been laughing at my old shoes. Everyone else has
brand new high tops. I wish I had high tops, the kind with velcro. Why
are they laughing at my shoes? I wish I didn't have to go to gym class.
Tues Oct 15 everyone is planning their outfits for Halloween. I want
to be a bag of jelly beans. I saw the costume once. You get inside a big
clear garbage bag and then fill it with different color balloons. It's
Wed Oct 16 I told Marcie about my idea for a costume. She said that
it fit me--a big fat bag of jelly beans. She said that maybe I could just
wear it all the time since it suited me so well. I told her that I wasn't
fat and then she said that I should look in the mirror more often. Now, I
don't know what to wear. Everyone will laugh at me if I go as a bag of
jelly beans. Maybe I should just stay at home.
Thurs Oct 17 I still don't have an idea for a costume but mommy says I
shouldn't listen to those other girls. Mommy said she would help me make
a good costume.
Mon Oct 21 Halloween is almost here. I think I finally got a good
idea for a costume
mommy says that it would be easy to make and not cost a lot of money. I
think I'm going to be a waitress. Like Brenda, the character I saw on
that TV show that I like.
Wed Oct 22 Marcie said that a waitress costume suited me fine. What
did she mean? I don't think she was complimenting me, but I don't know.
Because I told her about getting the idea from the TV show, she didn't say
anything else. What did she mean? Should I ask mommy? I think mommy's
getting tired of my problems. Mommy is always so tired. I wish mommy
could be with me all the time.
Fri Nov 1 we had our Halloween party at school. It was fun, but
everyone kept teasing me today about taking their orders. They said that
I could be their slave. I wish they hadn't said that. I got lots of candy
last night. Mommy said I have to keep it in the refrigerator and only
have one piece a day. The best part of Halloween was trick or treating.
1. What things on the
list can not be changed? These represent factors in ginger's life that may
affect how she is as a person, but they are not directly within her
control. (example. The divorce)
2. What things on the
list can be changed, influenced or modified? How could these things be
changed? Who can help change them? What can you do to help?
3. What skills can
ginger develop so she is better able to deal with these challenges?
4. What about Marcie?
What might be causing her negative perspective? What is the personal cost
to her of her attitudes and actions?
5. How can the Girl
Scout experience contribute to improving ginger's situation and outlook?
Can it also help Marcie? What strategies would you use in each case?
By Martha A. Adler, adapted with permission from the Citizen's
to Uphold Special Education in Lansing, Mich 1991
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